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Where You Been?


I'm tired. There, I said it!

Other than a tweet here, a quick Facebook update there, I've been pretty unreachable lately. People call, I send them to voicemail. My text messages are really short, a one word answer is not uncommon for me. A lot is going on, and I need to focus on that, not other people's problems with me or with other people. I need this detachment right now. Some will be mad, they will call me shady, and say that I am avoiding them, but I don't care.

I've always been this way. When I become too available to people, I start feeling overwhelmed and I pull back without notice, because I don't owe anybody an explanation.

This self imposed exile from the outside world (besides work) comes from things that have been happening around me. Sometimes we need a minute to take in everything that has happened to us, because in just one week your life can change drastically. I've been editing, and researching, and doing what I need to do to reach the goals that I have set for myself. I have a plan, and it's my job to make it happen. I can't do that if I'm more worried about others than I am about myself.

So people will be mad, but they will get over it. And if they don't, it is not my job to make them feel better. Anyone who asks you to change who you are, or what you do when you're looking out for yourself is not worried about you, they are worried about themselves. That means it's time to figure out where those people fit in your life, if they fit in your life. I myself need to work on this.
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